I think it used to be easy - eons ago. Before the fall of humanity. Before the vicious cycle of fear leading to anger leading to hate leading to more fear ending in violence and then revenge.....
How are we supposed to pull ourselves out of all the negative quicksand?
Aaahhh.... there is that trap again - putting the cause outside of us on a 'thing', an 'event', outside of our control. "He did that to me." "She said that do me." "I was caught in a situation that I could not control, and it was terrible!" "It wasn't my fault." "I didn't ask for that to happen."
Or did I?
Learning to control our thoughts. Impossible? Maybe not.
We humans are so funny. Something we don't love happens in our life, and we keep playing it over and over and over and over in our minds. Each time we add more detail, more color. We go back half way through and remind ourselves that we forgot a little detail that makes it even worse. We have to remember that detail.
We go to bed thinking about "how we were wronged". We wake up thinking about "how sad our life is."
"Now we have to go to work." "Now we have to live with that situation." "Life sucks!" "Why me?" We are so funny.
Why do we do this? Does it bring us joy to relive the thing that hurt us? Do we somehow feel better about ourselves because we had that happen? We all do it. We tell our friends. We tell total strangers. "We were so wronged. Poor us. What a horrible situation. Don't you feel sorry for us? You should. Oh - it happened to you too? Poor you. Then you know how we feel. How terrible."
So we create a sense of camaraderie, and we don't feel so alone in our misery. It's easier to be miserable now because we have friends who understand. We share the misery. Of course we aren't happy, and we have no money, and our health is starting to fail, and we don't have any love in our life - except that one friend who is also miserable.
I don't want to live there. Do you? I have lived there before. I have been at that place where living at all seemed too difficult. But I discovered something that helped. If I could think of one thing good in my life it would give me the will to keep going. Even as a child I would lie in bed in the morning and force myself to think of one good thing that would happen that day before I could get up. Sometimes the only thing I could think of was that it was Thursday and there was only one more day in the week after this day, but it worked. It gave me something to look forward to - something to be grateful for.
I have since learned that gratitude is indeed the key. It can flip my mood like a switch. Sometimes it takes a bit longer. Gratitude is the key that unlocks the good vibrations - those elusive high-flying vibrations that bring joy and love and money and success to life. Then a funny thing happens. Those beautiful high vibrations become less elusive. The switch is easier to flip. The gratitude list gets longer, and I feel surrounded by beauty and abundance.
When the loops of the "terrible happenings" start playing in my head, I tell myself to STOP and look around. Find something beautiful. Feel how the Earth is here supporting me and showering me with abundance. Yes terrible things are happening. I send love to those souls affected. I honor their choices and send love and light.
Love and light to you as well, dear reader.