JUDGEMENT leads to SEPARATION
SEPARATION leads to ANXIETY, DEPRESSION, ANGER...
OK - Let's go back to FEAR. What fear are we talking about?
Usually it is a fear of being judged by someone else and not measuring up.
We all long for love and acceptance. Wouldn't it be wonderful to feel completely accepted exactly the way you are right now - in this moment - with a bit of extra weight and not your best hair and maybe a lot of stress that is keeping you from smiling and ......
So we judge others because, if they have flaws, then our flaws won't stand out as much. We get to feel a little better about ourselves, by feeling more beautiful, smarter, more capable than someone else.
This judgement creates SEPARATION. When we feel we must be either better or worse than others around us, we can not feel connected to them. We create distance and put up walls with judgement of them - but, more importantly - of ourselves.
So now we have these walls of SEPARATION. We feel judged and we return that judgement. Is is so ingrained in our nature that we often are not even aware of all the judgement. This separation on some level - maybe unconsciously - makes us feel sad, even depressed. It can lead to feelings of unloved, not-lovable, feelings of not being accepted. In many cases this then leads to ANGER and lashing out. We've certainly seen a lot of that on our planet recently.
So I offer you this challenge. You can do this. Try to live one day without judging yourself or anyone else. 24 hours. You may find the most difficult part of this is not judging yourself. Start your day by looking in the mirror and sending pure love to every part of your body that you might otherwise judge. Really feel it. If you've never done this before, it can be pretty emotional. Stay with it for as long as you can.
As you go about your day, pay attention to any thought that feels like a judgement. "She is so lazy." "That guy doesn't know how to drive." "What makes her think she looks good in that short skirt?"
Notice how when you start feeling the judgement you also feel (a) superior to that person or (b) angry that you have to deal with that person or something similar.
When you become AWARE of the judgement you can replace it with COMPASSION. "I wonder what is going on in their life right now?" "I wonder if they are just having a really bad day?" "Maybe they just got some terrible news." "I hope their day gets better." Try it for just one day and see how you feel. Remember to give yourself showers of love throughout the day as well. I wonder how different your day will be. I wonder how differently people will respond to you.
Do share with me your experiences with this. It starts with each one of us. It can start today. Anything is possible.